OK now a womans point of view..... It sounds like she has been completely honest with you, and told you exactly how she feels. Atleast you know where you stand with her feelings. Try not to listen to what friends say, because sometimes this can cloud your judgement on the situation and you may end up seeing something that isn't really there. All you can do is be there for her. If she meets someone else, although it will hurt, all you can do is be there for her for when this guy fucks up and hurts her. You will be the one she comes to. The good thing about this relationship, is that she knows how you feel. So much so that when she arranged the date, she knew it would hurt you. I know this doesn't sound like a good thing, but trust me it is. Because atleast if she changes her mind on how she feels, she still knows that you want to be with here. Love is a tough game, trust me I know. I have been in the same situation almost. Me and Lee have been best friends for 6 years, and when we first met I was so in love with him. But he ended up with my so-called best friend. And it has only been in the past year that we finally got together. And it was worth the wait. But...Don't be at her beck-and-call. She doesnt sound like the kinda girl to mess you around, but just make sure that she see's that your not there to be her shoulder when she needs you. Try and go out with your friends, and show her that you can have a good time. No one likes a grumpy sod! ( Not that you are one I am sure) In the future, you never know what will happen. It sounds like she has considered a relationship with you, but for some reason she has decided against it. She may be scared of ruining what you have. But, if all else fails.....come back to UKSC we will always love ya!