Agony Aunt?

[Asad]

Long story short....i like this girl n we always text each other she knows i like her alot and i used to occasionally phone ive taken her out twice too (it was kinda dead both times but that was partly due to me coming out of the shell kinda thing, she wasnt exactly talkative either).

But in and around lectures we NEVER talk to each other i try and make the effort like wait back to chat to her n stuff but its kinda awkward when shes with a few other female friends ive noticed she talks to other males in the class with ease.....she`ll walk past but mabe a smile n say hi if that.

when it comes to around 6ish its when all the texting starts.....ive confornted her before in the sense that she never returns any of my feelings, she says she feels shy and has never had anyone like her like i do before and that she likes my abit (WTF?)...i`ve also said to her that it would be nice to actually talk to you instead of you running off....she always says my friend wanted to go etc so i couldnt stay. Ive also said that we should text less and actually talk in person more....still nothing

i`ve spoken to another one of my lady friends and she said that she likes you but finds it hard expressing her self etc and that i should either stick to it to for what ever time i see fit if anything comes of it or move on.

Bit of background on her....

Loves her mates seems happiest then, we have a few things in common but each time i introduce her to something new she goes all lazy like ok ill do it in the summer....not into her studying, has anemia (explains why shes always lazy), she wont try anything new alone it has to be with her cousin/friends, loves her soaps (i even watched 2 episodes of one so mabe we could atleast talk about something but she never elaborated on it or asked about it), occasionally brushes things off and starts a diff convo.

i feel shes not paying me much attention because she worried about her exams....she used to chill all the time now the exams have come shes started to panic n ive got caught up inbetween. I support her all the time and motivate her as much as i can.....but i can only do so much i suppose she has to have the will power to get the work done her anemia afects her alot shes usually in bed at 11ish sometimes even 10.

My "plan" is to wait till after exams (7 days) and give it about a week and invite her out a few times etc and properly give it a go and if not move on......wise choice? should i jump the boat now? or give her a chance?.

i might be on her course next year so i atleast want to be on good terms even if i do walk away...

thanks people

asad

[Guest Enzo]

My "plan" is to wait till after exams (7 days) and give it about a week and invite her out a few times etc and properly give it a go and if not move on......wise choice? should i jump the boat now? or give her a chance?.

thats my bet dude higlighted, its only a week

i have my final exams right now and alot on so could relate to how a stressfull time it is right now

[Asad]

Cheers mate, seems to be the way forward atm

Come summer if she does give me the hard shoulder by not texting/keeping in touch/refusing to come out etc its obvis she doesnt want anything to do with me.

P.s how many exams do you have?

[Guest Enzo]

aye totaly

three bro,

databases 3

networks 3

and software development 4

been doin this course for 5 years now part time, will be good to finaly finnish it and start earning come real cash.

[garbla900]

have you actually told her how u feel about her and not just hinted it could be thats she's as nervous as u are and just dosent want to make any advances. speaking from what ive just gone through with the girl that im kinna seeing (really complex even i dont really get it) it was that i wasent as confident as what she wanted me to be ,but i soon changed that and now shes happy an so am i but i found that leight (the woman) was realy direct with me cause i like that. but obv i dont know you or u lady well so i cant make a decision on it for you but if i was to call it id wait till exams are out of the way and then try a different approach but do it your way cause they can tell when you do and they can always tell when you lie aswell. (gotta find out how they do that so i can tell when there lieing as well)

[Asad]

your revision n stuff sorted? last min cramming? lol

i got 4

biochemistry (done, thought i did quite well)

microbiology (got it today @ 9 for two hour)

human phys (11th)

reproductive bio (15th)

I got a LONG way to go yet lol

Good luck, wish you all the best let us know how you get on

Yup, told her straight up i liked her at first she wasn`t having any of like saying i dont want anyone etc but i stuck at it and now i feel as if there is something there....hmmm so be yourself yet more confident (that can be done lol)

[garbla900]

the way i got leigh was that she was already seeing another guy but not exclusive and i met her whilst i was out on night and just started chatting to her as i love her accent (australian) and took it from there,we were both pished and ended i up sleeping on her sofa (after not doing anything) and actually just chatting to her in the morning when i got up. but after a while of going out and stuff (cause shes really direct)was just like ' i dont want anything my last bf was to push and wouldent let me see my pals and blah blah' but i just said basically im there for her when she need me and im there when she dosent need me but were still like a couple when were together but not when were apart. works out pretty well cause it gives her the time and space to do what she wants to do and the same for me but we dont have any proper ties well thats what she thinks but im a bit of a soppy fella and i really like her. but if it comes to it that she dosent want me around any more in her mind it's all okay if i get the heave ho cause were not properly together but are if you get my meaning. back to origonal point get her to tell you what shes looking for and work from there and is she goes down the road of nothing the now say well thats fine with me and keep going anyway and if it end up with nothing what have you lost but u could eventually end up with everything ya know.

sometimes i hate woman they do my head in say one thing an mean another but what else would we do with out them

[Asad]

Thanks mate,

i guess i gotta wait this week and next then ask her out, let it progress abit ill keep in touch but not clingy then further on (let her decide what she wants because theres no distractions now) then ask her what shes looking for in the future.....nice outline so far

[garbla900]

good stuff fella ill try to imput on this more but im not really the best person for this you can see how complicated it is with me and her and i bet it dosent get any easyer but ill try persivering with it and if it dosent work it dosent work. but stick to your paln and dont be like my best mate chasing a girl that was interested once apon a time but isent now and still mops over her. he really needs to grow a set but im sure u all ready have a pair lol

[Asad]

Im hoping one of the ladys might leave there thoughts as there probably the best at "interpreting" as it were whats going on in her head with the way shes acting lol

[garbla900]

what you saying i aint good enough for you and i thought you cared ;) lol im only playing mate but yeah would be good of them but they will be in the scratchers the now as it is 3.43 in the morning.

[Asad]

lol....... ;) now shhhh

[kevink]

I say give her a chance. Wiat until after the exams as it can be really stressfull.

The fact you made the effort to post this up means you are really into her and so you should give it chance.

[chanelle1234]

I would say give it a chance to. Wait until after the exams and she may come out of her shell a bit, for some people they can get very stressfull. I recomend going to the beach or taking her out for dinner so it will just be the pair of you, then you can tell her how you feel and that way she cant get distracted by anything else. me personally if im watching the tv and my bf speaks to me i am to interested in the tv sometimes and would just give him a quick one word answer to try and shut him up lol. the same goes for music with me but then everyone is different. When i met my bf 4yrs ago i had never had a proper bf before and it seemed weird, i was really shy and didnt really speak to him the way i spoke to my mates but that was because i didnt know him aswell. the more time you spend with her the more likly her feelings will grow for you (if she is interested),but dont see her to much as she may think your desperate.

hope this helps coming from a womans pint of view.

chanelle

[Glanza-Love]

oh shes animic.. that means she has a low iron count.. does she take iron tablets?

if shes a bit shy... then you gotta make the moves... hey lets go to the cinema. bowling. do small things that will make her laugh more. those sort of things tend to bring a shy girl out... or you can both go for a nice drink (assuming your both of age) nothing like dutch courage.

dont give up on a person cause there shy.. get her out her little shy shell and i bet she'll be one of those chicks that dont shut the hell up!!

exams will be stressing so dont press her too much!!

[kevink]

dutch courage? LOL

[garbla900]

it means get a drink down u so u lose your inhabitions.

[gaz]

" that she likes my abit (WTF?)"

Sounds to me like she's not really interested actually. Sorry to say. You obviously give her attention which she is lapping up which she could be doing for many reasons. Lonelyness or she just likes it. If she was into you properly I think it would be more forward.

So now try to understand her psychology and make her realise your better than anyone somehow.

[Jozinobi]

You only live once so make the most of it Asad.

The best things normally happen when you don't plan for them.

I've been in a similar position and the girl just laps up all the attention with hardly anything in return.

So pretty much one sided which aint good.

Get your exams sorted man so you can live to learn another day.

But its different strokes for different folks so if you are really into her, try your best.

You have nothing to lose but don't push.

Some girls need to know a guy really well to get intimate so take things slow but keep it interesting.

Keep your cool whatever the outcome ;)

Peace bro

Joz

p.s There are NO nice birds at my college lol

[bucketep91]

take her out for a drink and get her pissed lol if shes so fond of her mates why not ask her to bring them along and bring some of your own m8s that way theres plenty to talk about as a group and no 1 feels shy and uncomfortable

[Asad]

WOW......cheers guys ;)

Well i we had an exam today i was totally off it i didnt sleep at all last night and was in a weird mood exam was solid to say the least....

After the exam i kinda hung about n then was on the phone she went passed and i kinda followed (was genuinly going the same way out) she did notice me, turned round smiled and said hi as she was heading off with her mates.......gotta be a start eh?

@ love yup she did take them till one of her mates said they make you fat now she doesnt take them (women!)

[Jozinobi]

As others have said, organise a sweet night out and enjoy hers and her friends company dude.

Can't beat that.

Peace

Joz

[Faisal_Sol]

Treat them mean keep them keen!

Trust me she'll come for you when you least expect, get your exams out the way. Then you can get all the POONTANG in the world, if she's not the one then there's plenty more fish in the sea out there bud.

[Sparky]

I wouldnt hang around too long mate

Giver her a chance after the exams and see how it goes.

If its all goin well good stuff, if its just the same pull the plug straight away and move on

Dont get too caught up

With girls the more you show your interests the less bothered they seem to be

Women arrghhh ;)

[garbla900]

i hear that mines gone all wierd on me. buthses so hard to figure out im getting qa head ach just thinking about it. but like ive already said try your best but it's such a hard thing to try and work from only knowing half a side to a story. plus u drive a starlet as I've found the ones that i aperantly go for dont like cars unless its big and has a bmw badge on it.

( wonder if i can make them see the light that unless it's jap it's crap lolz)