Aww Jules, trust me mate, there is nothing that goes our way, always when you like someone, they dont like you back, or someone that likes you and you dont like them back. I have been/or people that been like this to me in this situation many times and know a few that have been in your shoes, and trust me it's not easy for a girl to tell a guy that they dont feel the same because of the friendship is so important. But when we do tell them, it's too late as they have gone beyond the point (trust me it's hard to break someones heart especially when they have fallen in love with you, which i find crazy because u can't fall in love with someone like that :s but i know one that did and really would do anything to be with me ). People always say that girls are misleading with guys, but HEY, we are just friendly and it's not our fault and men can be misleading too. So have you and this girl gotten to the point of "just friends"? Yep i think so. It's because you two get on so well she doesnt want to risk anything to ruin that friendship, it's frustrasting i know but it's just the way it is. And its also because maybe she has gotten to know you well, she might not see you as the type to "date". because i have done so with many of the people i gotten to know better. Like you said, it killed you to hear that she was going on a date, it's a start to make yourself come to terms that you can't be anything more than just friends and it's been made clear. So I gotta say you have to move on, easy said than done i know. But trust me everyone has been in the same boat. It's going to be hard, but be strong. i got a friend that used to like me but i didnt have the same sorta feelings, so he was turned down, 7 years down the line we are great friends and still are but from time to time he still gets annoyed with the guys that i see, because he thinks they are complete idiots and treat me badly, but he had to come to terms that we cant be anymore than just friends, so he has accepted it, but deep down probably still something there, but who knows. Like someone said on here, people never see the good people around them. And at the end of it, they still dont choose the person that likes them and the person that has been there for them all the way with love and support, dunno why it's just how it is.... :S No matter how much you keep telling her how you feel, it won't change her mind if it's made up. Chin up, plenty of fish in the sea ;) just have to find the one that appreciates you for you.